ABBY’S GIRL

Tasha has always been the more outgoing half, the life of the party who never let anyone take her out of character. Now Abby, has always been more shy, in her own world. Despite their differences, they always got along very well. In fact, they had been dating for two years already. 

Both girls were in their second year of college, and Tasha seemed to find more partying friends and spent less and less time with her girlfriend. Abby, felt that she was slowly losing her girlfriend to the college life. She began to force herself to go out more and socialize, but this was something Abby was never comfortable with and she hated her nights out with Tasha.

One night both girls were going out to an annual party, Tasha had went the year before alone. The more she went out alone, the more Abby felt she was going to lose her. So Abby got dressed, she did her makeup and she went to pick up her girlfriend. Abby was already so nervous, she usually never drank but that night she took a shot to ease herself. She thought, “If I could just get through one night, my girl won’t think I’m so boring to be around.” So she met up with her girlfriend, who she came to find out had already pregamed with her new friends. Abby felt terrible, for her this night was about competition and proving to her girlfriend that she didn’t need these new friends, she could also be fun. “BABYYYY” Tasha yelled out surprised by seeing her girlfriend, although they had spoken about going together. Abby had always been so sensitive, and Tasha’s words cut deep into her. 

Finally the two girls, and Tasha’s friends, had left to the party. They were almost wasted, which was a regular thing, and Abby still sober and nervous. Abby followed the girls like a lost puppy. She had never felt more left out in her life, but she knew that if she left her relationship would die out.

The girls finally arrived to the party, and Abby came to find out that not just Tash, but EVERYONE was wasted. “C’mon baby just one drink” Tasha slurred to Abby. She picked up the drinking and slowly started sipping on it. She hated every part of it, the alcohol burning her throat, with every sip she felt more and more uncomfortable as everyone around her let go more and more.

12 am: Tasha has wandered off somewhere with her friends, and has forgotten about her girlfriend completely. She thinks she needs to grow up, and live life on the edge sometimes. She loves Abby, but it can be frustrating to babysit someone who doesn’t want to have fun. When they were younger, it was okay, but now Tasha wants to do other things and she’s found friends who are willing to have that same experience.

2 am: Abby is alone, and drunk out of her mind. For a girl that has never drank a full cup of ANY sort of liquor she was completely wasted. She had never felt more alone and anxious in her life. To think she had let herself come out of character to please others surprised her. 

As the night went on, not once did Abby receive a call from Tasha. She sobered up alone, after her becoming so anxious and helpless, she realized that there was more to college drinking. Some people could handle themselves and drink responsibly, others maybe drank too much for their own safety- Tasha and her friends- and then there were those who felt that they HAD to drink to fit in and ended up feeling the same way as Abby. 

Drinking isn’t for everyone, and no one should ever make you feel pressured to drink alcohol. If you do, it is by your choice and your choice only. Tasha didn’t understand Abby and she never thought to ask if she felt comfortable. Sometimes people get wrapped on in their own lives that they don’t realize what’s going on around them. That’s why it’s important to be vocal when you’re in an uncomfortable situation, especially when its surrounded by alcohol.